For and About Single Moms.

Okay, first off this will be mostly about mothers who have their children out of wedlock.

Although I don't condone it, (I also don't believe abortion should be the option)  I believe that if a woman believes she is what is best for her baby, then she should be allowed to do so. 

It's hard to be a mom period. No one and I mean NO ONE is ready to be a mom, financially or emotionally. YES it is easier if the woman is married and has that help mate to support the mother when she is down. BUT I know plenty of single moms who are wonderful. 

HECK my own mother wasn't married to my father until I was 8 years old! 

Yeah she wasn't the best parent in the world and yes my father was around, but common, he wasn't really there. 

I'm not saying I have a bad dad either. We may have gone through some hard times with him but he is better now and he has changed. I love him. 

Anyway back to my mom, 

she didn't always have the answers to our questions. She couldn't magically heal our broken bones, our cuts and bruises, or our broken hearts.

She didn't always know the best way to discipline us, or how to fix our attitude problems.

But she did the best she could. 

She was there when we needed to talk. She was there trying to make us feel better when we were sick or hurt. 

I think she did a pretty fantastic job raising us.

 My siblings (myself included) may make some stupid mistakes sometimes, but we know right from wrong and we were raised with some awesome values that none of us will or can forget. 

I think that any mom, MARRIED or NOT, if they feel like they can teach their children to be genuinely good people, give them a good steady foundation to stand on when they are in time of trial and tribulation, they should be allowed to do so with out so much hate. 

Some of you may ask why this subject came up, well I have heard so many bad comments lately about it.

 I have several friends that are single moms. They are all good moms. 

Their kids have manners and are polite. They know that if an adult is talking to them, they listen. 

They know to wash their hands before dinner, sit up straight and say "please" and "thank you". They all may only be 3-5 but I have no doubt in my mind that those kids will continue growing up with good moral standards that they will be held to. 

But girls, if you don't think you can do this or are ready to be a parent, because being a mom is a big deal, don't get an abortion. It's just simply not the answer. Find a family that wants to adopt. There are plenty of happy couples out there who can't conceive and are just waiting to find someone to adopt from.  

Just remember being a mom is not all happy and fun all the time. Its taking care of a crying kid from the minute it comes out of you, all the way till,  always.

It's changing diapers, cleaning up vomit, giving them a bath.

It's being financially responsible for someone. Like buying diapers and formula (which isn't cheap) and making sure they have clothes that fit them and a roof over their head. It's hard. 

Just think really hard about your decision before you make it. Know what you are getting into before you get into it.

To those women/girls that want to raise their children, just remember it wont always be easy. There will be times where you wont know what to do, and you WILL need help. So make sure you have someone that is willing to help you out.
Teach your kids good manners. Teach them how to do hard things and that making a mistake is okay. Teach them to be the leaders we will need. Be proud of them. And just be there when they need you.
Hold them to high standards so that when they are older they will have the self worth it takes to make it far.
LOVE them with all of your heart and unconditionally.
Lastly, be a good example. Be who you want your child to be. They learn from you.

To everyone else! Be nice to one another. 

Stop hating on people just because they sin differently than you. 

If you want this world to be a better place, start with yourself. 

Trust me, its contagious.